Christabel Zamor “HoopGirl” talks about how hoop dancing and performing have made her spirituality more physical and visceral. This is one juicy interview ladies. Get ready to be inspired! Christabel can be found at HoopGirl and her latest exciting project for women, Goddess Blossom. You can also follow her on Twitter at http://twitter.com/hoopgirl
ON BEING A HIGH MAINTENANCE PONY
By Christabel Zamor
Remarkable women require remarkable care and feeding! Every woman should create a series of self care rituals and practices which help her shine the brightest… and she should be proud of the time that it takes. As women, we are usually dissuaded from being “high maintenance”. This concept is associated with being fussy, irritating or demanding. It is also usually associated with superficiality, celebrity lifestyles and overspending. It is generally something that excuses need to be made about. Men tolerate it but only if there is a big “payoff” for them personally, rarely recognizing the inherent value in opulent self care. But what if we, as evolutionary women, reclaim the idea of being, “high maintenance”? During a recent talk with my dear friend, Anne, she commented in a confident voice, “I’m a high maintenance pony,” and then laughed proudly. She went on to describe all the self soothing rituals she has around daily yoga, exercise, prayer, saunas, spiritual quests, etc. Throughout her description, there was a sense of pride and accomplishment in her voice which really got me thinking. Anne is an extraordinary being. And I am realizing that time investment in being extraordinary should be valued as something special and honorable instead of something to be embarassed about. I am now proud to say, as well, that I am a high maintenance pony! Actually, I have been for years, but I always had a few mixed feelings about it. Sometimes it has meant not eating what everyone else is eating or drinking when I go out. Sometimes it means having to say no to types of media which many enjoy but I know don’t benefit me. It has meant prioritizing trips for my own spiritual expansion and growth over some family events. It has also meant saying no to my romantic partner when I need to invest time into resting or yoga instead of going out. Honestly, while I have always been able to say “no” with ease, I have felt a slight tinge of guilt about it. And sometimes being called, “high maintenance” made me feel a bit bad. Talking to Anne reminded me that I can provide myself with all the validation I need. I can be the source of my own recognition by refocusing on the depth of my own life calling. I require extreme measures of self nurturing and tender loving care and I am proud of it! High maintenance ponies are the stuff of champion ponies. Elite achievers which are in the top five percent of any field need equisite care and feeding~ think of Olympic athletes, the Dali Lama, and competing dancers. I am realizing more and more that in living as my future self, now, I am being invited to step up the quality of my life and the size of the game I am playing. If I am already my future self~ an inspirational writer, speaker and workshop leader ~ empowering millions to enhance the quality of their lives, of course I would require equisite care and feeding (as I already do!) I would realize that the value of my life work is so great there it is an obvious need to nourish myself in lavish ways to allow my body to vessel and transmit the energies moving through me. So that’s it for today. Consider how much time you take for you and maybe give yourself a bit more. Enjoy self soothing, pampering your senses and doing things which make you feel clear and open. This is the most precious investment of time you can make.
“I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” That’s it. A absolute miracle in 4 short sentences. My dear friendAnne taught me this mantra while here in Kauai. She shared that this deeply loving prayer, called ho’oponopono, has created massive changes in her life. This traditional Hawaiian practice has been made globally famous by the work of Dr. Hew Len. He worked at Hawaii State Hospital practicing ho’oponopono on the files of hundreds of murders and other insane violent people, without even meeting any of them in person. He just did this prayer as a “cleaning” on himself. Over time, less restraints were needed on all prisoners and they became less violent and agitated. The turn around time of inmates went from several years to several months. Eventually, in what seemed like a miracle, all inmates were “cured” and the hospital was shut down due to a lack of need. I was immediately intrigued by ho’oponopono and within a few days started practicing. I watched this video and practiced along with it, feeling my heart melt. Then I just tried to remember throughout the day to practice. When I had something or someone come to mind which was troubling… I just began saying and feeling the words, moving intuitively. I’ve starting sensing big shifts, big releases on a deep level. Knowing very little about the practice, I felt an instantaeous, deep devotion to it. Since then, I’ve learned a bit more about Dr. Len. I figrued I would share it with you… Dr. Len says there are tragedies in our life because our minds keep experiencing the same things over again and again. The solution is to “clean” ourselves through love. Dr Len asks in response to everything he experiences, “What is going on in me that I am experiencing this?“. Dr. Len takes 100% responsibility of what he is experiencing by inquiring how he is creating this experience. By going inside and “cleaning” our unconscious, we can change what we see. He believes we have shared data, or memories, with everyone. It is all about cleaning out the “data” we experince internally which says someone or something outside of us is “____”. Perception is an end product of the data produced by our unconscious. We experience suffering, fear, etc because there is data inside which must be erased. In regards to the “miracle” at the hospital, Dr. Len says he didn’t “heal” them, he just took care of himself. He views these patients as coming along in his life, and in in a way saying, “you got stuck, you should let go”. He just cleaned up whatever was going on in him that kept them in a hospital. He didn’t do it for the benefit of them, it was to create freedom within himself. He says that this helps him see God in everyone. Dr. Len says the most important question anyone can ask is, What is going on in me that I am experiencing this?” He is dedicated to falling in love with memories the same way Jesus fell in love with his enemies. You say to the memory that replays emotion you are resisting by saying, “I love you, thank you for showing me where I have to make amends.” Dr. Len says this practice isn’t about analyzing, it is about letting go. When you are in a state of emptiness there is no data playing. This means you are absolutely free and clear. Most of the time we move through life with “dead” information based on past memories. Letting go of these brings a state of enlightenment direct from Source, where you can speak a language of love and truth. Dr. Len does the cleaning on everything as a habit. He views his purpose of existing to be making amends. For example, before meeting people he does it on all the people he will meet ahead of time, the address, the camera, taking 100% responsibility for everything he will experience. He believes you have to be able to talk to everything, from people to furniture to plans and projects. He believes that when you talk to them like little children and make amends, then things become right and the right people and resources show up. The basis of this is the Hawaiian belief that everything is alive. So… that is a lot of “information” for those who like that sort of thing. For me, so far, ho’opponopono has been more of an intuitive heart practice. I find myself doing it with my own body, my parents, my x-husband, my boyfriend, my friends, my extended family, the island, the ocean, and even food which I ate, my own self criticisms, my business and creative dreams. I know more will continue to reveal itself to me with practice… I am so grateful for this beautiful gift. Mahalo!