Stella Santana talks about the challenges growing up in an affluent community and the daughter of guitar legend Carlos Santana. She spoke of her struggle to find greater meaning and purpose in her life and how she finally found her true path by taking a big leap of faith!
What Do You Do When You Don’t Know What To Do?
One of my favorite things to talk about is passion. I love talking with clients, friends—OK pretty much anyone—about their passions. I’m passionate about a lot of things but what about when you’re not sure what you’re passionate about? Recently a friend was telling me that he’d left his job and was looking for something new to pursue but he had no idea what he wanted to do. I started asking him some of my best questions :
What is the experience you want to give people when they’re around you?
What could you do all day, everyday and never get tired of it?
What kind of impact do you want to have on the world?
“Stel,” he said. “If I knew the answers to those questions I wouldn’t be asking you for advice right now.”
“So… Any ideas on what I should do?” he asked.
I wasn’t going to tell him what to do and I began to rack my brain for any advice I could give him. How do you move past that all that confusion and discomfort? What do you do when you don’t know what to do? How do you get things moving again?
I’ll tell you how: You make a decision and you take action, even if it’s the smallest decision and you take the babiest step. (Yes, I realize “babiest” is not a word but I’m using it anyway because I like it.) Why take action? Because when you do, things begin to unfold in the direction of that action. Sign up for a class in something that piques your interest. You’ll meet new people who are interested in the same things as you and you’ll start to build a community of support around your new path. Talk to your mentor for support about wanting to head in a new direction. You don’t have a mentor? GET ONE! I’m serious. I can’t even express to you how valuable it has been having mentors in my life. They keep me motivated, in action, and are such great resources when I start to feel stuck or need some perspective. Go to lunch with a friend who is super happy with her career and feed off of her vibes. Seeing a real life example of someone experiencing what we want to experience silences that inner skeptic that says it’s not possible for us. My point is that nothing is gonna get your juices flowing again but you so stop thinking and start doing.
I’ll leave you this week with one of my favorite quotes:
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase. Just take the first step.” – MLK, Jr.